KEEPING IT REAL: REAL WOMEN WANT REAL MEN!

I work in a largely male dominated industry. I was recently asked by a couple of guys that I work with: “Why do girls want guys who are sensitive?” I answered: “That may be what ‘girls’ want, but women want men to be men!” My comment was met with high-fives all around.

When I was younger, I used to walk around with a bit of a chip on my shoulder when it came to men. I had a litany of things I thought were “wrong” about them. Granted my personal run in with a few bad eggs had left me embittered and with an eschewed opinion of men.

For example; I had the misconception that men were just “un-evolved women”, that men and women were basically the same but MEN stubbornly refused to share their feelings, see the value in ‘just cuddling’ or shopping for nothing in particular and for no apparent reason.

I also viewed men basically as predators not protectors of women, my personal baggage to be sure. Then something or rather “someone” came into my life and changed my perspective. I met a REAL MAN’S, MAN in Jesus Christ, and he arranged for me to meet my future husband, who changed my perspective on men completely.

First of all he (my future husband) was a nice guy. Not a push over, but a genuinely kind person. He was emotionally healthy, to put it another way; he had dealt with his own stuff. I wasn’t required to fix any fallout from his childhood, previous divorce, etc. He had done all that himself. He treated me then and still does like a smart, capable woman AND a princess and he does it simultaneously.

He is man enough to deal with my occasional (can’t make me happy-no matter what) moods. I can trust him to make good decisions and accept the consequences of his actions good or bad. When he makes a promise, he keeps it. He sets an example for our children and young future husbands. He is the backbone of our family. I also know that he will step into the frontlines of battle without hesitation for us. And in case you haven’t noticed, marriages and families are in a “spiritual battle” these days.

Personally, I think my husband is incredible, but he would tell you that he’s just a regular guy. Just a man. I have learned over the years to appreciate how God wired men to be and why. Clearly our society, our families, our marriages need the presence of “real men”, strong, stable, dependable, faithful and loving men.

You know, “the regular guys”. So appreciate them for the way God designed them, and thank them ladies for being there for you, even if they don’t share their “feelings” often. To be sure they have them…they just care more about yours.